Dear Birthmother,

We are writing this letter to let you know of the experience that we have had with the adoptive parents of our first-born grandchild.  We as the grandparents feel that it is important that our feelings are put into words in order for us both to be able to express our thoughts in this matter.  Let us start out by saying we were asked by Todd and Michelle to write this letter in the hopes of them being selected as adoptive parents for another child to be welcomed into their family fold.

Grandfather’s View:
My wife and I were lucky to meet Todd and Michelle.  Our daughter and her then boyfriend were living together at the time.  Our daughter became pregnant and realized that she was neither mature enough nor desired to become a mother at that time in her life.  We, as future grandparents, were not happy with their decision to put our first-born baby grandchild up for adoption, but realized the relationship was breaking up and both our daughter and the baby’s father were both unprepared to raise this baby at that time.  Also at that time my health was not at a point where my wife and I could take on this huge task of raising our grandchild.  The realization that I may never have a chance to hold and play with, and watch my grandchild grow and develop was a very sobering reality. 

Grandmother’s View: 
I have worked as a Licensed Social Worker for the past 15 years.  In that time period I have become more knowledgeable about the adoption process and the several different outcomes a birth family may experience with adoptive families.   I was somewhat nervous about the thought of my grandchild being adopted and taken outside of the state we reside in.  A part of me was thinking that once this family takes our grandbaby we may never see or hear from them again.  Thank goodness that was not the case with Todd and Michelle and this adoption.  I have, since the first time I met Todd and Michelle had a comfortable feeling of their honestly and sincerity.  They informed us during the first initial contact that it was their intention to allow us to remain connected to our grand child as long as it was in his best interest.   I feel as if I did not lose a grandchild, but through this adoption with these wonderful people have gained an extended family.  They have welcomed us into their home for visits with Reese whenever we are in the area.  Though we are several states apart, they maintain contact through letters and pictures of his progress, growth and development, as well as of his birthday and special holidays.

Our daughter and her boyfriend selected Todd & Michelle to be the adoptive parents.  We were able to physically meet both Todd and Michelle before the birth of Reese and had several communications with them as well.  The birth of our grandson occurred in early January 2003 and Michelle & Todd took him home with them from the hospital.  In May 2003 (Mother’s Day) we received a letter written from Michelle informing us what the adoption has meant to her.  The contents of this letter gave me so much comfort at a time when I had started to doubt the adoption decision.  I would like to include a portion of that letter at the end of this letter so you will understand its meaning and how this letter comforted my wife and me.  This letter provided us with the reassurance that the adoption of our grandchild by Todd and Michelle was in his very best interest and we know he is where he should be.  They are such a wonderful family.

Sincerely Yours,

(Reese’s birth grandparents)

Letter written by Michelle to our family: 

“I feel compelled to write to wish you a Happy Mother’s Day.  I feel so blessed this coming Sunday and I owe my Mother’s Day to you, as you are the reason I am celebrating this May.  You are the reason I celebrate every day.  Reese is the light of my life; I love him with every fiber of my being.  I thank you for bringing him into this world safe and sound and then for choosing me to be his forever mom.  You loved and cared for him during his first 9 months and I’ll make sure he knows everyday how your actions show him love everyday for the rest of his life.  Thank you for being his beginning; I am honored to have been chosen for the rest.  I hope you are doing well.  May this letter find you in good health and happiness.”

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